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Winner or Looser??

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When I was a child my father used to say “Mera beta engineer banega(My son will be an engineer)”.My mom used to say “Mera beta ek Music composer banega(My son will be a Music composer)”.My father is an Executive Civil Engineer and my mother was one of the best singers of the state with lots of awards and certificates hanging all over our place.So it’s obvious for them to think about my future in their perspective.My father always used to teach me mathematics and science.He is a gold medalist in mathematics olympiad.He is a genius mathematician and equally awesome in science.So he used to teach me and always wanted me to be the top in class,which I actually was.My mother appointed a music teacher for me.I tried and did whatever I could to satisfy my parents.But I was stretched between their expectations and my dreams.They never asked me what I actually wanted to do and I think hardly any parents do.Right from my childhood I have a great attraction for Art.I used to watch cartoon network for hours with my paintbrush and colours around me.I used to paint whatever I see in the tv.I used to make flip books,houses and trees with matchsticks and build sand houses and stuff like that.I was enjoying my time.:D

Things again started changing when college life started.My father was now more serious about my engineering.What that meant was more study and less art.I was fucked up.But again I did what my parents wanted me to do.But inside I was more curious about art and different art schools(specially animation school).I used to read newspaper ads and surf internet to find more about them.I had a secret folder where I used to hide those info so that no one will see them.I attended my exams got good marks and then engineering entrance exams.My father said you should be an Architect.For Architecture I was on top 400 among the 15000 students who attended the AIEEE(All India Engineering Entrance Exam) from my state.But I had a secret I was hiding from him.I secretly applied for Animation entrance test without asking him and was selected.I don’t know what happened but at that very moment I said to myself it’s now or never.I just said to him I don’t want to become an Architect.I don’t want to add and subtract numbers,don’t want to measure the degrees all my life,I want to be an Animator,an Artist,a Film maker.After a long argument and request my father said if that’s what you have decided to do why wasted time on all those engineering tutions and exams.I smiled and said because I love you Dad.I proved I have the ability to become a great architect but that’s definitely not what I want to do.After a long silence he said pack your bags we are leaving for your Animation entrance tomorrow.I jumped with joy.The very next day my father and me left for Mumbai.So I kicked my engineering entrance rank tossed my luck in the air and came to Mumbai to live my dream.

I did well in animation too and then completed another course in film and television editing.I also did a special course in programming and web design.After all those I thought I am going to get a good job.But life took another surprising turn when I saw there’s a lot of competition,not with talent but with money.Wherever I tried for a job they wanted money or else if you have connections with political leaders or famous persons.I ran from place to place for a job or a chance to show my talent but all in vain.I was staying with my friends and everyone of us was talented but all of us were facing the same problem.Most of them left Mumbai and their dreams and returned home but I wasn’t ready to leave my dreams.After a lot of struggle I atlast got a job and from that day I never looked back again.My talent was recognized and I started climbing one step at a time.There’s still a lot to do,many more steps to climb and desires to fulfill.Nothing in this world that’s worth having comes easy.There are more obstacles than ways to success.Life takes more than it gives,but one thing that’s sure is I will never give up on my dreams and will never stop trying.

Every morning I wake up to see an obstacle trying to defeat me..but struggle has made me so strong that defeat has just become a morning coffee for me which I drink with pleasure.

I’ve learned, pain means alive.Staying away from home for years with no one around you or for you and still walking tall takes a bit extra than determination.I sometimes fall very sick too and with no one around I have to take care of myself but that never made me run away from my dreams.I love my dreams and I want to live every moment of them.Paying the bill with personal loss for all those success sometimes makes me think am I the Winner or Looser??

My story continues with me….

Abhisek 😀


About Abhisek

I like to swim against the tide.I like creating my own way.I Write about Film,Art,Poem,Stories and Personal views on things that matter.A Film editor and Digital artist by profession.

15 responses »

  1. What a great life story, Aabhisek. You are lucky to have such wonderful parents and they are blessed to have a talented and brave son like you. Really enjoyed reading your story and god bless.

  2. Follow your own particular dreams. We are handed a life by peers, parents and society, you can do that or follow your own dreams. Life is short, be a dreamer but be a practical person……..HUGH HEFNER,

    yes.. if you are practical in following ur dreams…. dreams are bound to become reality. …so frnd just dont bother abt little hick ups coming in the way just keep on doing, and you are lucky enough that have got so much supportive parents….

    more over i liked that you shown ur interest after proving in AIEEE…its quite convincing…:)

    Besy wishes,

  3. loved to read your story Aabhi. now i know you better. you have listened to your heart and worked as your mind prepared you to win the race. the race is still on. and i am sure your self confidence will earn you the trophy as a winner. you are lucky to have so great parents who understand their child’s desires. they are also lucky to have you. you certainly make them feel proud. and there you are always a winner.

  4. Thanks for your story and for your desire to want to live your dreams rather than do what your Father wanted rather than yourself!

  5. This is so true. Glad to know that your parents were supportive and understanding. Wish you all the success in life

  6. Abhisek,
    It sounds like you have got it all mapped out and your parents are supportive loving and wonderful parents

  7. It sounds like you come from a strong supportive family and that’s so important in life but it’s admirable that you’re following your own dream. Life is a struggle as you know but there’s no doubt you will acheive your goal. Never give up!!

  8. Hello Abhisek –

    I think one big mistake a parent can make is to try and make their child just like them. A parent must allow their children to explore their inner passions in life. Although I found what my father did for a living admirable and interesting, following in his footsteps were not my dream. I enjoy reading your post. 🙂

  9. Thanks for stopping by and leaving your views friends. 😀

  10. you’ll go a long way abhisek… i admire the passion that never ceased to grow within you and has found its way through film editing and animation…

    in a way, my mother has influenced me in my choices in life… but i also packed my things and left home at twenty to seek my dreams in life…

    i think it’s more than being a winner or a loser… the only person that i try to overcome is myself…

    good luck and continue dreaming big…;)

  11. Heyy dada… Theres nothing called winning or loosing. Its all about self satisfaction. I got a very low rank in IITJEE.. and I bunked it, my relatives abused me 😛 ..and I somehow managed to shift to Durgapur leaving Kolkata, with only my moms’ support. Then was an tiring struggle.. dad refused to give me much allowance.. 😛 (he had his constraints) I worked part time.. 😛 But even then, kept on with my extra curriculars, writing… and continued as a entrepreneurship leader… somewhere, good times came… i got more work.. and the entire team was very supportive. Got to learn a lot about life 😛 This is another which i learnt- theres nothing called winning or loosing 😛 Whatever happens, we gain… we dont actually loose anything.. in life bad happenings create regret… 😛 Well take it as a lesson, its win ! 😛
    I didnot oppose my dad ever… me and my mom were very sad when he told me to stop my painting classes.. (it was my life, and i promised not to touch the canvas) but see i got something better – camera 😛 Now I photograph… My friend, Supratik helped me.. gave me his cam, I shot a film with his cam… got the award at NIT Dgp… then another one at IIT Kgp. This gave me some recco in College as well… professors helped. I still want to be a director of photography, a screenplay writer… but then again, I will not go against my dad… 😛 Lemme earn for few years and learn the tricks of the trade… and you toh is there to help me out 😛 hain na?

  12. Abhisek I really enjoyed learning who you are and where you came from both literally and physically. That you have talent in many areas is evident, that you have the drive to pursue it is admirable. When I was in late twenties I left my family on the east cost ( Massachusetts) of the USA and moved to Arizona. It was what I felt was right for me, for many reasons. Life in Arizona was what life is like anywhere you live, some great stuff some not so great stuff, but it was my life! Now many years later I am living in Florida ( south east coast) and my nephew who lives in Massachusetts and is in his late twenties has decided to move out to Arizona. I smiled when I heard his decision. The cycle of life!!

  13. Great you had a Dad who allowed you that chance and didn’t make more of it when you finally voiced what you wanted. I twitted and stumbled.

  14. winner of-course 🙂 liked ur story 🙂

  15. Thanks for stopping by and leaving your views friends….Love you all 😀


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